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Jul 5, 2022Liked by Katie Kraushaar

so 1st 'wheat pennies' have not heard that spoken in decades ! made me smile. 2nd, this article reminded me of something I used to say to my daughter, a Winston Churchill quote, "you have enemies, GOOD it means you stood for something. It is hard, especially as a female member of this human community to not be likable. It is some strange unwritten expectation for women, 'a successful women is polite, pleasing and likable'. The reality is the most successful ppl at least in the arena of business and profits are those who rank higher on the DISAGREEABLE scale, a scale dominated usually by men. Seems it is acceptable if not expected for men to be disagreeable. I do find it interesting when someone just , for no real cause , just doest like someone else. I allow it from my dogs, if they don't like ya, well that's all. I mean dogs just have a sense about these sorta things, right? ; ) So I say... , in the words of RuPaul, ' what other people think about you is none of your business" I try to remind myself of this daily and in doing so just be as true to myself as I can be.

Great article

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Is likeability important? I think it is in certain life areas like work and networking. But what I think is much more important is loveability. Being someone who can be loved (by a parent, a partner, a friend, etc.) is I think so much more integral to living a good life than being someone who can be liked. You can be disliked by many people, but as long as you are loved by at least one or two, you can still be happy. While if you're liked by many but not loved by anyone, I don't think that can ever make you happy.

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Interesting take on 7 of wands! I hadn’t noticed the shoes before! As to likeable, we are hardwired to look for belonging because we know we survive as part of community. So I think there is just a built in struggle there that is part of life. Maybe to different degrees at different times but the whole idea we shouldn’t care and are somehow failing if we do is poppycock.

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Jul 5, 2022Liked by Katie Kraushaar

I adore this writing so much, your grandma was a badass !!

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