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Hannah Levy's avatar

Takes a lot of courage to share something like this, it's raw and vulnerable and that says a lot about who you are as a person - someone who is reflective and self-aware and seeking. I identify as a seeker, too. On a different side of the friendship spectrum, I have found myself in co-dependent relationships with friends, where our lives become so intertwined that it's hard to know where I end and they begin. And it's often with people that I have trouble saying no to. I wind up being a grounding anchor for their chaos. It's something I only realized at the age of 35. I've been actively working on boundaries, but guess what - when you 'change the contract' with a friend and suddenly start saying no or asking for what you need when you haven't in the past, it shifts the relationship. Sometimes ends the relationship. Anyway, all this to say is that friendship is ~ hard ~ and I admire you for putting this out there in the universe. Also. I know we just met and I live hundreds of miles away but I am pretty sure we could be friends :)

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Waleska Font's avatar

Thank you for opening yourself to us like this every week 🥰 I have always been the opposite of this, I like to say I have many friends in many places and some of them I’ve known since I was a toddler.

That said, all of them are significant in different ways/levels. It’s been really hard for me making time to be on my phone with them since I’ve moved from two different countries so far. It’s really weird because I’m from the OTHER era and saying I have friends who I’m never able to see or touch is disruptive in my thought process. But I try to understand that distance doesn’t make them any less important.

Besides all this, let me tell you, I believe I’m very lucky to have met you. I was just telling Eli the other day that I was very happy because I’m making friends with people who represent so many things that I wanna become. You were 100% part of that crew. I seek for people that I can admire in friendships, people that represent nourishment to my soul as I try to do the same thing back.

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