Post-divorce, I said I was done making major life changes for anyone but myself. But I'm learning that choosing love is choosing me and my contentment.
I saw this pop up in my inbox and just had to read it immediately. Thanks for sharing your story Katie. Personally, I can't think of a better reason to move for than love. Because love is people/a person. It's not a job, not money, not convenience. And to me people are the most precious part of life. At risk of sounding cheesy and like I've stolen it off Moulin Rouge, love is the greatest gift we can give and be given. As you already know, I moved for love and never for a moment did I doubt that it's the best decision for me. My partner is my home. This doesn't prevent me having an identity apart from him, my career, my hobbies, my friends. I can have all that and still call him home. ❤️ Best of luck with the move when it happens!
Thank you, Val! You are so right--Hilly is my home too. I think a lot about containers that we create for ourselves, and often, I only consider the physical ones. But people are containers too, and the one I'm creating with him is sacred. I hope you write more about your move because I'd love to read!
This was timely for me - my fiance and I are moving in together in a few weeks. During our discussions leading up to it, I've realized post-divorce I've really had a lot of control over everything in my life, and choosing to trust and relax is hard!! Reading your story helps me remember that I chose my partner for a lot of good reasons, and trusting him means I'm also trusting me.
Sounds like we have walked a similar path! I love the independence my divorce gave me, but the pendulum swung too far. Hoping that we both find that lovely sweet spot of trust and personal agency in our relationships!
I love this - it's perfect for me today. I've spent my life pulling away from people, thinking I have to be "independent" to find my own path. But it turns out that allowing myself to be held, supported, guided - by spirit and with/through others - is actually the most independent path. It was the 4 of pentacles last night that really helped me see it.
I love the Four of Pentacles with that--I always see it as an invitation to move away from a lack mindset, and I do think "toxic independence" is sort of a version of that. We think that we have to grip life so tightly that we can't see the beauty that awaits us when we let go.
I saw this pop up in my inbox and just had to read it immediately. Thanks for sharing your story Katie. Personally, I can't think of a better reason to move for than love. Because love is people/a person. It's not a job, not money, not convenience. And to me people are the most precious part of life. At risk of sounding cheesy and like I've stolen it off Moulin Rouge, love is the greatest gift we can give and be given. As you already know, I moved for love and never for a moment did I doubt that it's the best decision for me. My partner is my home. This doesn't prevent me having an identity apart from him, my career, my hobbies, my friends. I can have all that and still call him home. ❤️ Best of luck with the move when it happens!
Thank you, Val! You are so right--Hilly is my home too. I think a lot about containers that we create for ourselves, and often, I only consider the physical ones. But people are containers too, and the one I'm creating with him is sacred. I hope you write more about your move because I'd love to read!
I've got a planned (unwritten) post about what "home" is. I'll add one specifically about the move to my list. :)
This was timely for me - my fiance and I are moving in together in a few weeks. During our discussions leading up to it, I've realized post-divorce I've really had a lot of control over everything in my life, and choosing to trust and relax is hard!! Reading your story helps me remember that I chose my partner for a lot of good reasons, and trusting him means I'm also trusting me.
Sounds like we have walked a similar path! I love the independence my divorce gave me, but the pendulum swung too far. Hoping that we both find that lovely sweet spot of trust and personal agency in our relationships!
You have a beautiful story - both your individual one and the one you and Hilly are creating together.
Thank you, Erin. <3
I love this - it's perfect for me today. I've spent my life pulling away from people, thinking I have to be "independent" to find my own path. But it turns out that allowing myself to be held, supported, guided - by spirit and with/through others - is actually the most independent path. It was the 4 of pentacles last night that really helped me see it.
I love the Four of Pentacles with that--I always see it as an invitation to move away from a lack mindset, and I do think "toxic independence" is sort of a version of that. We think that we have to grip life so tightly that we can't see the beauty that awaits us when we let go.